Things People Never Talk About
Movies and television shows make it seem like sex is not a big deal and that it is a quick process for both parties to achieve an orgasm. First of all let me talk about how big of a deal sex really is. In this day and age, some people perceive sex as a social behavior, which is not good for your mental health. Every time a woman has an orgasm or even gets turned on, they experience a release of a chemical called oxytocin. When oxytocin is released, it makes the women feel attached to the person that she just had an intimate experience with. Men do not usually feel this sensation when they have sex/make out with a woman, so that makes it easier for the man to go from women to women. I have multiple friends who use dating apps like Mutual and Tinder to find men to have sex with. One of my friends has been rejected after having sex so many times that she has given up hope to find love. That example right there just shows that having spontaneous/social sex is not healthy because in the end it will just make you feel bad about yourself.
So many movies and television shows portray sex as an easy and spontaneous way to have fun with someone. Movies also make it seem like sex is a quick and low maintenance process, which is not necessarily the truth, but that is what I believed before I got married. After I got married I realized that all of the movies and television shows were 100% wrong about sex. First of all there is something called gravity, but that is all I am going to say about that. Secondly, men and women get stimulated very differently. I feel like no one talks about this but not every women gets an orgasm from just penetration. In most cases men have to figure out how to turn their partner on before they precede to penetration. Foreplay can sometimes be a long process, but it is a very important step to take because it will make sex more pleasurable for the woman. It is vital that the husband makes the wife feel comfortable and that the couple talks to each other about what their needs are.
Misunderstandings
Has your husband ever asked you to have sex and you just didn’t feel like it because you had a hard day? Then once you say no to him you feel bad because you want to please him but you just are not in the mood. Well, that is a totally normal and healthy feeling. Men biologically have a stronger sex drive than women. It actually takes longer for women to feel turned on then men, so it is normal that your husband is down for sex 24/7 because men can get instantly sexually aroused. Sometimes your husband might get a little but frustrated that you don’t want to have sex and that could make you sad or even mad at him because he does not understand that you just don’t want to have sex! This situation has happened to me multiple times because I have been constantly stressed out with school work. In some situations I end up getting angry at my husband because he does not understand what I am feeling. At that moment it would be easy for me to walk away and be angry at him for the rest of the night, but that is not a healthy way to solve problems. The best way to handle this situation would be to sit down with your husband and tell him why you do not want to have sex, which could be because you are stressed or maybe you feel like you are not getting pleased when you have sex. No matter what the problem is you can always talk to your spouse about what you are feeling because they love you and want the best for you. I know that sex can be an awkward subject, but it is so important that you are open and honest with your spouse about your sexual relationship.
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